If you or someone you know is sexually assaulted, it is critically important that you understand that, no matter what you did, where you were, what time of day it was, or what you were wearing, the assault was in no way your fault. Sexual assault has little or nothing to do with passion, lust, or sexual arousal; it is primarily based on the perpetrator's need to control, dominate, abuse, and humiliate.  Survivors of sexual assault react in many different ways following the assault(s). The first and most important step following an assault is to call a friend, relative, partner, the police, or an advocate specifically trained in assisting survivors of sexual assault.

The decision to report a sexual assault is yours. If you intend to report the assault to law enforcement. attempt to preserve as much evidence as possible. Do not:

  • Shower, bathe, or douche
 • Throwaway any clothes that were worn at the time of the assault
 • Brush or comb your hair
 • Use the restroom
 • Brush your teeth or gargle
 • Put on makeup
 • Clean or straighten up the crime scene
 • Eat or drink anything

If possible, you should immediately record everything you can remember about the incident including:

 • Physical description (e.g .. height, weight, hair color, clothes, scars, tattoos)
 • Statements, voice characteristics
 • Evidence of intoxication or drug use
 • Description of weapons
 • Details of sexual activity

This detailed documentation not only helps to identify and prosecute the assailant, but can also restore a victim's confidence by providing an active role in the investigation and trial.

If someone you know is sexually assaulted, here are some things you can do to help:

 • Listen without judging
 • Let them know the assault was not their fault
 • Let them know they did what was necessary to survive
 • Reassure the survivor that they are cared for and loved
 • Encourage the survivor to seek medical attention
 • Encourage the survivor to talk about the assault with on advocate, mental health professional, or someone they trust and let them know they do not have to manage this crisis alone